Kill Your Expectations

Do you know what can rob us of answered prayer?

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Our expectations.

We expect God to answer our prayers in a certain way. If he doesn’t, we’re disappointed. If we don’t manage the expectations, we can get offended. Offense, if not dealt with, can harden our heart to God. Unforgiveness can settle in our heart… and that’s dangerous.

Yet, laying down our own expectations and telling God, “I’m coming to you with empty hands and an open heart,” makes us vulnerable. It’s humbling and painful to lay down our own goals, dreams, and desires.

Often times, we’ve birthed expectations, nurture and feed them so they’re our children. When God asks you to lay them down, you feel like you’re sacrificing or abandoning your babies. “But God, I’ve birthed this desire and prayed for it for years. It has to come to pass in this way!”

Problem is: If we don’t lay it down when God prompts us, we become blinded to his way of answering our prayer. And it can deafen us to his voice. He might be instructing us to do something to align or prepare for the answered prayer, but we give a deaf hear, thinking that wasn’t his voice. So, we no longer receive because it doesn’t line up with our expectations. Then our prayers sound like this:

  • “God, where are you?”
  • “God, why don’t you hear my prayers?”
  • “God, why are you blessing my neighbors and not me?”

I’m not saying that all unanswered prayers are a result of misplaced expectations, but many can be.

Instead of solely focusing on God answering all your prayers, it’s vital to focus on him and his nature.

Do you realize that God is good? And that he wants to bless you and doesn’t spare any good thing from you? Ever.

“For God has proved his love by giving us his greatest treasure, the gift of his Son. And since God freely offered him up as the sacrifice for us all, he certainly won’t withhold from us anything else he has to give.” (Romans 8:32 TPT)

Jesus is the manifestation of answered prayer. He intercedes for us to the Father. And he knows what it is like to live a life where things don’t always go as you expect. He was tempted just like we are, but without sin. So, he can help us walk through this journey of lying down our lives and expectations. And holding onto him while waiting for answered prayer.

For often times, we have expectations because of our own needs. We’re often not aware that we create these because it will fill a void. So, when you lay them at Jesus’s feet, he can replace them with his love. And his identity. If the expectation is from God, it will grow. But you won’t be driven to see it come to pass. You’ll have peace knowing that it’s in God’s hands, not yours.

How about you? What have you learned from sacrificing your expectations on the altar? Please share in Comments below. Thank you.


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