Get Out of Your Box

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Can you see that lady’s discomfort? I can because I’ve lived in a box for years.

I recently listened to a teaching called “Expectations and Expectancy” by Danny Silk. Boy, that teaching hit home. I’ve had too many expectations that haven’t gone my way. So, I’ve lived in this perpetual disappointment toward them.

The problem with having expectations on God is summarized in one word: us. We think we’re putting God in a box. God, you have to do this or else.

Else what? Ever asked yourself that? I have. These are some of my answers:

  • I’ll be disappointed in you.
  • I’ll stop believing in your promises.

Did my honesty affect him? No. Thank goodness he’s not easily offended by our honesty — no matter how flawed it is.

He still kept his line of communication open even if I shut it off a few times.

I shut him out because I was hurt. I had blamed him as if he was unfairly holding back. Did I blame myself?

No. So, I continued to trod along without changing my expectations.

Isn’t that the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing, yet expecting different results.

Finally after exhausting myself for years, I’ve realized: “Hey, maybe I need to change.” Would I dare to change my thinking?

Nah…not that.

Okay, yes that.

Like Danny shares, it’s not God who’s stuck in a box. It’s us. We’ve put ourselves in a box with our expectations. Expecting God to do this or that. We can’t see past the box. So, when they go unfulfilled, we set ourselves up for disappointment, frustration, and pain.

Yet, all that pain and disappointment is unnecessary. After all, why are we blaming the God of the universe who’s omniscient? He knows all things including our future. Hum…Perhaps he knows what’s best for us since his perspective far exceeds ours?

Why are we blaming God who’s omnipotent? Oops. He’s all powerful. He can change anything in an instant. So if he’s not changing the circumstances, maybe there’s a valid reason.

Why are we blaming God who’s omnipresent? He knows what’s going with everyone everywhere including those in my life. So, I’d need to conclude that God knows best, right?

Here’s a valid conclusion: If something is unfulfilled, it’s because God loves us. He loves us enough to see them unfulfilled until we’re ready.

Or perhaps, they’re unfulfilled because he has something far greater. Could it be that our expectation is far below his?

Never doubt God’s mighty power to work in you and accomplish all this. He will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination! He will outdo them all, for his miraculous power constantly energizes you. (Ephesians 3:20 TPT*)

So, why not take myself out of my limited box and live in the unlimited world of the Kingdom?

Yes, it requires trust and living in uncertainty. That’s hard for me at times because uncertainty scares me. Well, it scares the humanity in me — the part that wants control and certainty.

Yet, I can’t continue to live in my box filled with disappointment, frustration, and pain. I want out.

I want out enough to say, “God, whatever you have for me.”

Since I’m letting go, I’m blown away by him. He’s sharing truth that I have never heard before.

(He may have tried to share it, but I didn’t receive it.)

And I’m experiencing a greater level of freedom and joy. And I’m open to him and his ways even more.

Now, I’m thinking, how far could I have advanced had I let go of this box years ago? Hum…

I’m grateful that I’m learning to let go, so I can really live.

How about you? What have you learned when you got out of your box of expectations? Please share in Comments below. Thank you.



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