3 Myths About Community

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So, why do some people refuse to participate in community? While I don’t have all the reasons, I know some. Because I preferred to keep to myself than get involved. Although some of my reasons seemed valid, most of them hid behind fear or selfishness. But as I’m getting to know who I am, I’m realizing how vital participating in a healthy community is. So, here are three myths about community:

    1. I’ll lose my individual identity: This is a personal choice. No matter your personality, gifts, and skills you have, you shouldn’t lose yourself in community. Because the community needs your individual stamp on it, including your values and views, to succeed.

      When I was at ORU, I went to Germany on a missions trip for two months. Our team had five men and five women with an array of personalities. I felt as though my role was serving as a follower; thus, I hesitated to take any leadership role on the first stretch of the trip. But I saw certain needs going unmet, so I asked our team leader if I could handle some administrative load. Boy, he was relieved! That was a defining moment, realizing the team needed me to express my leadership, skills, and gifts.

    2. Getting involved with groups never works for me. It only leads to a mess. Life requires getting our hands dirty–that means having a willingness to get involved in people’s issues. It gets messy as personalities clash. Opinions differ. And feelings get hurt. Yet, those aren’t necessarily red flags that the group isn’t healthy, but expected outcomes when you interact with people from different backgrounds, experiences, values, and personalities. Honoring people as you work through those issues is vital, along with communication and love.

      The only clean stable is an empty stable. So if you want the work of an ox, and enjoy an abundant harvest, you’ll have a mess or two to clean up! (Proverbs 14:4 TPT)                                    

    3. I don’t have time to get involved in community. You can’t afford not to. For a while, I held back from participating in various groups at church because of the time commitment. But I’ve discovered that when we’re plugged into healthy community, God redeems our time. For when interacting with others, creativity ignites, prayers get answered, and weaknesses get strengthened. I learn more about myself, God, and others. It’s an investment that’ll reap far into the future.

For me, I receive my identity and love from God. I’m not seeking to depend on community to be my sole source of love, acceptance, and joy. I’m participating in community as an extension of God’s love. I’m compelled to reach out. If I get bruised, I’m like a little child running into Daddy’s outreached arms for healing and refreshment, then I return to play with others again.

How about you? What have you gained from community? Please share in Comments below. Thank you.

(For those who read my post last week about teamwork and the Golden State Warriors, they actually won the NBA Finals last night.)

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  1. I love community! It’s given me such pleasure to get to know people, and share stories and interpersonal growth and experiences. It makes me so culturally sound. I love it. I rejoice when others rejoice. And community just helps me to feel loved. Thanks so much for letting us know the community’s health is all so important.